Lucinda Koza
4 min readApr 29, 2024

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A Wedding, Two Birthdays & a Rebirth

Photo by Kelly Common on Unsplash

When we had a wedding

I made vows to your father about

The possibility of miracles.

Maybe I didn’t know what I was talking about really

But I think what I meant was our marriage being about optimism and faith solidified by commitment and dedication to a common goal, and through that, miracles are possible.

I didn’t know then, but I was talking about

You.

You are both the miracle.

Your father and I, through that spoken vow, used all of our fight, all of our commitment, all of our dedication, faith and optimism we could find to create you. It was the hardest either of us had ever fought for anything before in our lives. When we thought we couldn’t fight anymore, we looked harder inside ourselves into the very corners and hidden parts until we flipped ourselves completely inside out and the miracle was you, both of you, created, alive and growing inside my body.

When we thought the fight part was over, there was some trauma within my body and a doctor had to save all 3 of us at the same time.

The doctor even said I didn’t have enough blood anymore and they had to put someone else’s blood inside my body.

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Lucinda Koza

Founder of I-Ally, an app for millennial family caregivers. Thought Leader. New mother of twins. I seek to amplify voices that may be otherwise kept silent.